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After a long day, all I wanted was to walk through the front door of my home as soon as possible.

With my backpack, handbag, and shopping bags, I made my way from the parking lot to the building entrance. During that short journey, two of the bags ripped, tomatoes scattered everywhere, and I had to take a forced break. After gathering myself, I quickly punched in the building’s entry code and hit ‘enter.’ The door didn’t open… “I must have mistyped it,” I thought. With the weight of everything I was carrying, I managed to lift my right hand and enter the code again using two fingers — still wrong.

I took a deep breath, trying to apply my ability to view everything simply as a situation — something I’ve been practicing all day — and entered another code I often use. Life was clearly determined to play games with me that day. The third attempt failed too. The system locked me out for a while due to three incorrect tries. Having never experienced this before, I dropped the bags I was carrying and sat on the step that separates the parking lot from the building entrance — physically and mentally exhausted.

I asked myself...

“What are you feeling right now?”I realized I was feeling many emotions. One shouted the loudest — frustration. The others quietly stepped aside.

Seeing this frustration in front of me, I stopped questioning myself and turned my questions toward it.“Dear frustration, what brought you here?”Frustration replied: I’m not sure how aware you are, but your last three days have been consumed by passwords.

Two days ago, you tried to renew your membership to a group you belong to. You got your password wrong three times, had to wait 12 hours for a new link, and since it was one of the last two days of your renewal window, this really stressed and upset you.

That same day, you tried to log into your bank accounts to make payments, but locked yourself out again. You spent hours on the phone with customer service trying to reactivate your accounts — and those payments were due that very day.

Then last night, when you entered the alarm code at your apartment door, you forgot to press ‘enter’ after typing it in. The alarm went off, waking the entire building. You were mortified and felt deeply embarrassed in front of your neighbors.

And then, your phone ran out of battery. When you turned it back on, you entered the wrong PIN three times and spent half the night on the phone with your carrier. You were so impatient you nearly broke your phone.

And today’s winner in the password saga? The building door.

And now you’re asking me what brought me here? Panic, anger, shame, impatience... All my emotional siblings came together — and I was born.

Then, a little hurt and a bit offended, frustration threw the ball back to me and asked:“But what are these situations really showing you?”

It was like I was hearing all of this for the first time. I took a moment and looked back over the past two days.

It was right. It was like I had no idea any of this had happened.

After a short silence, it continued:“I see a light in your eyes. Your shoulders, once slumped, are now a little straighter. What are you feeling as you replay all this in your mind?”

There was only one thing I felt: the feeling of being lost in passwords.

I wasn’t managing passwords anymore — they were managing me. And this feeling of being lost was causing me to experience a range of negative emotions across all areas of my life.

For some reason, I didn’t want to say it out loud. I stayed silent.

At that moment, the voice of frustration began to fade:“As your shoulders rise and your eyes regain their light, I lose my power. Now, the feeling of being lost is about to arrive. Goodbye.”

And it disappeared.

Then I heard a softer, calmer voice:“Hello, I’m the feeling of being lost. Thank you for finding me. I’m curious — how did you find me among all those passwords?”Its voice was warm and caring.

Suddenly, I found myself in the middle of an endless stream of letters and numbers — each moving toward me at different speeds, sizes, and colors. I wasn’t doing anything except spinning in place, trying to dodge and react.

I saw it clearly, but still didn’t say a word. I simply took a deep breath and told myself, “Get out of here.”

The lost feeling heard me.“I saw you take a deep breath. I heard you say you want to get out. And when you do, what will you feel? What are you trying to release with that breath?”

This time, I responded out loud, with confidence:“Freedom! Yes, when I get out, I’ll feel free.”

That confidence echoed in my voice, and with that breath, I released the feeling of being lost.

Now my final guest arrived — trust. The emotions I had been carrying had now all spoken.

We sat quietly for a while. Then in a calm, grounded, and compassionate tone, trust asked:“What do you need to avoid getting lost in passwords again?”

What did I need? Hmm… That question alone reminded me that I hadn’t even considered any of this before.

Maybe a bit of order. Maybe slowing down. Maybe more focus…

Trust, with its deep tone, gently asked:“Which one do you need the most?”

Hearing that tone, I whispered back:“Order. First and foremost, I need order.”

I didn’t want to answer another question. I had come back to myself.I knew what I had to do to create that order. I gathered the scattered tomatoes, packed them carefully into the bag, and this time — I put down all my things, entered the code with empty hands, and the door opened.

I climbed to the first floor, opened my apartment door, and disabled the alarm — pressing the ‘enter’ key without forgetting. No incident this time.

I took the bags to the kitchen, dropped my handbag onto the chair in the entryway, grabbed a notepad from my desk, and began taking my first actions…

Since that day, I’ve kept the promises I made to myself. And I haven’t gotten lost in a single password since.

We are the ones who create, manage, and solve all of life’s codes.

And when we feel lost, maybe all we need is to stop for a moment and ask:Are the passwords managing me, or am I managing them?

Wishing you ease in unlocking all the codes you encounter.